Communication
What is Communication? It has been defined as
the imparting or interchange of thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing or signs.
There are three parts of Communication – the Words we speak, the Tone of our voice, and our Body Language while speaking. Try to remember which one of these carries more of the meaning when communicating:
· 7% Words we say
· 38% Tone of our voice
· 55% Body Language
It is important that we identify the styles and patterns that influence how we communicate with each other when under stress and its impact on our close relationships. Remember we want to be in that Leveling Congruent Style (PAIRS For Life pg. 22) whern we are communcating with our family. Using this style of communication promotes effective communication.
When we communicate we talk and listen. Do you remember the elements of Good Talking and Listening?
Talking:
· Direct – say what you mean
· Clear – describe things well
· Specific – Include details
· Honest – say what you think and feel
· Tactful – be kind and think of others feelings
Listening:
· Active – do your best to hear them
· Attentive – concentrate don’t try to guess what they are saying
· Open – give them freedom to speak
· Respectful – do not interrupt
· Careful – ask questions or to repeat something you didn’t hear
The Shared Meaning (PAIRS For Life pg. 29) is an excellent tool to practice your talking and listening Skills.
· The Speaker invites the partner to do a Shared Meaning
· The Speaker begins by speaking short sentences and pausing regularly for their partner to repeat back what they heard
· The Listener will try to understand the speaker and show caring for their feelings
· Once done show a sign of appreciation.